conversation between friends

I had a wonderful conversation with a friend today. We are both currently going through similar situation in our relationships. He says to me "Why are women so complicated?". I said women aren't complicated they just simply are what they are and the sooner you accept that the better off you will be. There are certain social rules or practices that you find when dealing with women. Women will lie about many things in the beginning of a relationship with the hopes of the man not noticing the changes after they happen. Lie may be a harsh word...Women have a tendency to "morph" into what they think a man is looking for in hopes of winning his affection. When the newness of the relationship wains the true personality comes out. Then the man is looking confused saying why have you changed? The truth be known, men know women do this. And they do a similar form of this when they are trying to win your affection with attention,dinners, back rubs gifts and romance. And women know that men do this also. But we all act like we are surprised when it happens. Why is that?

In the age of casual dating people often get their signals mixed up or confused. So many popular songs saying that they just want to borrow you, or be a buddy. The truth is some people are just not able to handle that type of relationship. Somewhere, somehow someone is going to develope feelings, catch feelings if you will. We say that like someone is catching a virus. It is a natural progression for people to develope feelings for those they share a connection with, close contact or close proximity. I have and maintain relationships with the important people in my life because we share contact, time and proximtiy. I have "fallen out of love" because I lost connection,communication,physical contact and intamacy with my partner.

I watched the movie"He's just not that into you" and loved it. The movie doesn't say anything new it just ask you to look at signs and SEE THEM. If someone doesn't return your phone call's and says it because s/he just to busy,she/he's just not that into you. If you are angry and upset with the a person and after they see it: the tears,runny nose,frustration... and they are unaffected. She/He's just not that into you. Just looking at those two examples everyone knows that you will make time to call if you want to. If its in the car on the way to work, on the way home,in the bathroom,after lunch or right before you go to bed. It takes two mins. If you want to you will and if you just don't feel like being bothered you won't. If you love someone and they are a blubbering mess, even if you know they are going overboard you show some concern. Even if you just give them a hug or text them to "stop trippin"

So in closing :) we all know that we both lie, we both change after we are in the relationship. After the intial demasking you have to decide whether or not you want to stay in the situation you are in. It would be so much easier if we be honest from the beginning. It would save so much time and energy. But we won't. So lets continue to buy cars and weaves we cant afford,push up bras and bodymajic suits(for men and women)and hope it all works out in the end.